Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Gabe's Hands

I am telling anyone out there reading this now that I am wrecked when I see this picture of my nephew's hands, but I think I would have done the same thing if he had been my child. This just absolutely tears me up.  I don't understand many things, but I certainly can't get it right in my mind that children have to die. Oh my. Oh, Porscha. How many nights I think about you and your longing for your son.


Barbara said...
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Maggie said...

I don't know you, Barbara, but I thank you for stopping by. I posted this on my FB, and I think it is just too hard for people to see. I admit to being completely devastated and wrecked when my sister-in-law posted it, but I do think I would have done the same thing, and I feel I am honoring Gabe and my sister-in-law in posting this picture. Life is sho very, very short, and we never know what the next minute might bring, so if you have children, hold them tighter. If they are grown, stay in touch. If you have issues with someone you love, try hard to work them out. Thanks for stopping by.

LKD said...

Let me understand this.

She had his hands cast after his death?

To me...it's incredibly moving, and eerie.

Moving because it reminds me, keenly, of my grandfather, who was completely devastated, wrecked in the wake of my grandmother's death. She died on Christmas Day at home. He was with her when she died. He wouldn't let go of her hand. He couldn't let go of her hand.

Later that day, when my parents, brothers and I went to see him, my grandfather and I were alone briefly in the kitchen and he said to me: I know this is wrong to say out loud, but I wanted to cut off her hand so I could keep hold it.

Maggie, it tears me up to write that.

I'd always known how deeply and completely my grandparents loved each other, but I didn't comprehend it fully until that moment.

So, I don't think it's too hard for people to see. Maybe it's just too hard for them to comprehend the totality of this kind of loss.

I didn't see it on Facebook. I have to check my settings. You must not be on my feed.

Honey...thank you for posting this image. It moved me. And reminded me of a kind of love that is rare in this world.

LKD said...


Can't find you on my Facebook friends list. Coulda sworn we'd friended each other. Can you fly a friend request my way? When I search your name, I can't find you....

Maggie said...

Laurel: I will send you a friend request from FB. The story of your grandparents just brought tears to my eyes. I think people are so afraid of "feeling" so much that they just can't let themselves go certain places.

Yes, my sister-in-law asked that his hands be cast in plaster, and these are the plaster molds. As I said, it really wrecks me to see his hands, but if he had been my child, I may have done the same thing and found myself slipping my hand into one of these casts on any given night.

Oh, Laurel. Just when I think things are getting somewhat better, there is something else that comes along to dampen the spirit and the heart and the soul. But I do believe in the strength of knowing others are there for you. I hope my loved ones who have lost so much these last few months understand as well.

Maggie said...

I just keep thinking of your grandfather and what a gift it was to know that kind of love but how horrible for him to have to let go. Some things make no sense to me.

Like death.

Maggie said...

Laurel: FB has changed, and I am not sure if my friend request got sent. It used to be a simple matter of looking up a name and sending a request, but it's different now. If you don't get my request, let me know.

Barbara said...
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Maggie said...

Yes,Barbara,people can be so cruel. If there is someone you know who supports you and is in your corner, that helps so much when there are others who do not understand you nor seem to care to understand. Go to that person. Reach inside yourself and know what you know about you that helps you feel better about who you are. By the way, how did you find my blog? Were you looking at common interests? I hope for better days for you soon.

capacina said...

Just want to say hello and hope your weekend was nice.